The subject of interracial relationships is a touchy one in a racist society like the United States of Amerikkka. Most people can’t or won’t see beyond race when it comes to finding love. And some people will curse people of a particular color, sometimes their own, in order to bond with people of a different color.
It’s sorrowful, but there are some black folks that detest their own so much that they would rather be lynched than date their own people. The reasons are usually racist negative stereotypes one would normally see come from angry whites. You would’ve thought that such black people were white people in black skin they way they claim how black men and/or black women are no damn good!
Please get comfortable, because this is going to take some time.
Bitter Black Males
You probably know at least one, or you mostly see them, hear them or hear about them in social media websites, especially on sites where you can produce podcasts and videos like You Tube and Blog Talk Radio. Bitter black males on the internet are the dudes who will spend a better part of the day explaining the “evils” of black women making countless videos to make the same point ad nauseum. Their main complaints include that black women have bad attitudes, are promiscuous with multiple kids with just as many fathers or love thugs over good men. These guys are stereotype programmed.
Bitter black men clearly have issues that stem from their past relationships with black women. But most of them seem to loathe black people in general, particularly poor blacks and anti-racism black activists. On the other hand, they love white people, especially white females.
They believe white women are “superior” to black women. They think they are most submissive, know when to shut up, are naturally beautiful and know how to keep their legs closed.
To call these guys ‘Uncle Toms’ is an understatement. They are straight up Uncle Ruckus incarnates.
The most infamous of these brothas are former Youtuber Sargent Willie Pete and online alcoholic, abuser and overall self-hater Tommy Sotomayor. The Sarge made literally hundreds of Youtube videos mostly bashing black women while adoring white women. His reign supposedly ended when he sided with a white male guest who insulted black women. His channel and his videos were deleted, but not before some Youtubers managed to obtain them.
Tommy Sotomayor (Thomas Jerome Harris) is a radio host a few channels on Youtube and several social media pages. He has uploaded numerous anti-black women videos. It is noted that some of his videos are featured on white racist websites as some of his rantings are anti-black period. But to him, dark-skinned, respectable black women are the worst. He has a daughter that, according to his arrest records, doesn’t support!
Speaking of arrest records, Uncle Tommy was locked up several times for violent offenses. Thought I throw that out there.
But Uncle Tommy got a dose of poetic irony when he dated a white woman that he had on his show whom he praised as if she was the greatest thing invented since sweet rolls. He loves him some white women, and he was madly in love with this particular one. And then, he discovered she cheated on him in his bed! Rumor has it that it broke him so bad, he contemplated suicide.
If these fools think they are good men worthy of love from a black female, one has to wonder why would any black woman, or any woman for that matter, want to date abject misogynists, one of them apparently physically violent, suffering from internalized racism anyway.
Black Women’s Empowerment
Certain black women have developed this idea that finding love outside the black community was not only beneficial, but at most, it was necessary. Black Women’s Empowerment (BME) is a movement where black women believe that not only should they think for themselves and leave the black community behind as it is believe that staying there will hold them back, but they should consider looking for white men for love, security and support.
Many of them consider black men as ‘anchors’ pulling them down, unworthy of marriage. They think most black men are inherently violent, dimwittedly hypersexual – desiring white vaginas – and financially disabled (perpetually broke as hell).
However, white men are believed to be the exact opposite. They are believed to be better father-figures, know how to handle money, and would not dare strike a woman. Again, stereotypes on both sides are inspired.
I’ve never seen BWE videos or podcasts, but there are several blogs and websites dedicated to the cause. Most BWE advocates are writers and bloggers. Halima Anderson wrote a few e-books and runs a blog page called Black, Woman and Winning a.k.a. Date a White Guy. Her blog seeks to help black women open up to the idea of interracial relationships. Although it is not openly anti-black male, at least at first glance, it still stresses the desire of dating exclusively white guys.
Khadija Nassif, author of her first book The Sojourner’s Passport: A Black Woman’s Guide To Having The Life And Love You Deserve and moderator of her blogsite Sojourner’s Passport supports the idea of looking for romantic opportunities outside the black community and that the BWE, unlike the Civil Rights Movement, largely achieved success.
Some of Khadija’s other opinions on interracial dating include:
The black community is considered “dead and vampiric”.
Black women who date nonblack men are not “hindering their marriage options” by not engaging in “nothing but a black men self-sabotage”.
The all-black dating market is considered “toxic”.
“Nothing but black men” black women are “foolish”.
She doesn’t believe that white racism and sexism are holding black women back. Black men – black people are!
Bitter Black Men and the BWE movement are loaded with self-hating, obviously mentally and emotionally crushed black men and women who largely seek refuge in the arms of white people from blacks where the ones they’ve known have traumatized them in some way. They see whites as superior to their own people. They have adopted their racist mindsets. But the reality is that they aren’t searching for love as many of them claim, because they don’t love themselves or other black people. They are seeking a fraudulent sense of peace and pleasure from the struggles of being black by seeking white saviors to rescue them from the curse of blackness.
What’s love got to do with it? Nothing, if we’re being real.
There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to, dating or marrying someone of a different color if you truly like or love that person for who they are, not what they are or what they supposedly are!