What is toxic masculinity?
Pretty much, it’s a social machination that promotes and encourages men to be dominant, sexually aggressive and emotionless. In other words, it’s where males cannot be allowed to be fully human. They are taught to be a finite organism enclosed in a tight space of expectations from their environment.
But of course this has devastating consequences. Toxic masculinity is like the fuel within a nuclear reactor with a fragile ego casing. Any error or flaw inflicted on it will cause a meltdown harming and murdering other people including himself.
Toxic masculinity has a few names. Some refer it as patriarchy, hegemonic masculinity and hypermasculinity. In black and brown neighborhoods, we call it bitch-assness. In other areas, it’s called men’s activism, the manosphere or the alt-right movement. It links gun and weapon culture and women blaming in its matrix. And it rejects anyone outside of the tiny zone of manliness.
We’ve seen it done many times with terrible results. Here are ten real life examples:
Toxic masculinity is when you decide to shoot an innocent senior citizen, because you want to look for someone to murder out of anger over problems with your girlfriend. Instead of taking responsibility, you blame her while escaping into another location. And when police close in on you, you take yourself out instead of getting punished.
Toxic masculinity is when you come to a party open to the public with a strong chance of starting some shit. It’s a time for celebration and a breather from work and stress. Yet, you come armed. It’s when you and another dude fight for reasons likely rooted in disrespect that breeches your ego. Sooner or later, you start shooting your gun, harming and killing party goers in the process. And then, you run away into the night.
Toxic masculinity is when you abuse your wife and get upset at seeing men kissing men. So, you go to a popular gay club and shoot as many people as you can before you, yourself, are killed leaving behind a moment in history as the worst mass shooting to date.
Toxic masculinity is when you’re a sexually frustrated virgin and blame women for not giving themselves to you while rejecting your advances. You see yourself as the superior alpha male who deserves all the sex in the world. And so, as an act of vengeance, you take your gun, of course, and plot to take out as many people, women in particular, as you can, because since they didn’t want you, they just don’t deserve to live.
Toxic masculinity is when your religious and political beliefs are apparently so strong that you believe bizarre accusations. So, you make sure they pay dearly. In one such case, the issue is abortion and you’re heavily and violently against it. So, you arm yourself, locate a place and start firing, killing three people and are proud of the mass murder you performed.
Toxic masculinity is when you’re suffering from mental illnesses, but society doesn’t seem to take you seriously enough. You can’t take stress. But you chose not to seek help. And the end result is one of the worst mass shootings in U.S. history that took place on a college campus ten years ago.
Toxic masculinity is when you open fire in a movie theater shooting as many people as possible, because apparently, you like to blow stuff up and kill people and might just be insane.
Toxic masculinity is when you shoot and kill your own mother before committing a mass shooting at an elementary school killing 20 children and six staff members for reasons unknown.
Toxic masculinity is when you murder your wife while taking the life of an innocent child before turning the gun on yourself. Apparently, your problems with women were enough to commit such an atrocious act and kill yourself afterwards.
Toxic masculinity is what helped get the annoying orange in office and led to the formation of the white men’s cabinet.
Yes, there are other examples, and this problem will continue with more lives senselessly lost. Until we men get our shit together, have an open and honest look at this issue which is killing us and everyone around us and do something about it like control ourselves, especially around firearms and explosives, and embrace our full humanity, we will continue to shed more blood and tears in the name of the broken and destructive culture we’ve shaped around manhood.