Brothas, Let’s Stop the Disrespect!


Misogyny is the disdain and contempt for the female gender. It is ingrained in our society. And it is a global problem, one that has permeated into the black community with devastating consequences.

Recently, I heard about the tragic story of a black woman who was executed in the streets. Her “crime” was that she turned down a man’s advances, and she was murdered for having the freedom to say no.

Her name was Janese Talton-Jackson. She was someone’s daughter, sister and mother. A man named Charles McKinney approached her twice at a bar. Each time she rejected. And shortly after, she was shot to death because of it. She was only 29.

Sadly, this is nothing unique. It happens more often than we like to believe. It happens so often that there’s a Tumblr page dedicated to the victims of similar attacks.

I’ve read a few articles on this incident from bloggers and writers, and I took the liberty to check out some of the comments from readers. While many saw this as a horrible act, there were a few who bashed the victim for her own death! I’m not surprised seeing as how we live in such a culture of victim blaming. Still, it was sad as hell to see comments from (presumably) males who thought Jackson was responsible for her own murder.

Some of the comments ranged from assuming Jackson had a stuck-up attitude to the old mental illness excuse to males crying about how they getting disrespected by women somehow equals to or is more damning than what happened to this woman. Assuming that these are indeed males behind such comments, males have privilege mindsets that tell them that their suffering matters more than women’s and that they have rights over a woman’s body, not women themselves. This bastard Charles McKinney felt disrespected, because a woman said ‘no’ to him even though she had a right to. His fragile ego couldn’t take and so he took it upon himself by punishing Jackson by killing her. His misogyny was the weapon that took down an innocent woman.

Like I said earlier, it is a global problem that is a part of the black community. By no means is it limited to the black community. (Checking out the Tumblr page confirms that.) Yet, it is a problem we must address. No one in this country is more disrespected than black women, and some of that disrespect comes from black men. Yes brothas, it’s hard out there for us, but it’s even more hard for our sistas, especially when they have to deal with coonin’-ass fools that insult, harm and kill them. Instead of looking down on them like some self-hating, male privileged Negroes do, we need to stand by them, with them and fight for them the way they do the same with us and for us.


8 thoughts on “Brothas, Let’s Stop the Disrespect!

  1. “There were a few who faulted the victim for her own death”

    This is something that would expect from the mouth of a cold hearted White supremacist but from a self hating Black man? beyond disgusting! So if their mother , sisters, aunts or any female in their family turns down a man’s gesture, they deserve to get shot because they were turned down by them? What a dirty low down shame! As kids,our parents teach us that you can’t get everything you want. What made Charles thought he could have Janese?

    The world is getting scary these days. I had guys to hit on me. Some I responded to, rejected ..and yes, occasionally I got called the “B” word for it,but I guess some people don’t want to accept no for an answer. Nobody deserves to get killed for saying no. I wouldn’t want to be involved with any man who are self hating and who doesn’t think much of Black women.

  2. Niggers by definition is a white man in black skin. He loves or at least respects all things that are white or associated with whiteness and hates or disrespects all things associated with blackness. We have a lot of niggers posing as black people with disastrous results. Where is a darren wilson when you need one(quoted from t. Sotomayer)

  3. I remember watching a commentary on lovelyti’s channel about this. Absolutely disgusting and mortifying to even think about, and no doubt the mini Tommy’s out there are going to jump around and raise a big hoopla and revert to tired stereotypes to try and justify the victim’s tragedy…. You know, I’ve always said this, the other races face a lot of similar challenges as us but for all their imperfections, you would never see a white, Asian, east Indian, Chinese, Japanese, Arab, Persian or Latino or even a continental African, make videos, blog posts, or channels dedicated to putting down their women

    1. However you DO have Asian, Indian, Arab and Persian countries where it’s perfectly acceptable for a woman to be beaten, jailed or even murdered because she wore the wrong clothes, defied the system and even dare try and go to school to get a good education. I understand what you are saying but let’s not overlook the rampant and often times violent misogyny of some of those countries you mentioned.

  4. This poor young woman is dead because this sorry ninja and his damn hurt feelings. Shaking my head. May she rest in peace.

  5. But I will also say that (and this may not be the PC thing to say) But what is a woman with 3 kids doing twerking and clubbing on a weekday ? On weekday ? I mean. You only go to clubs on a weekday when your are 18, 19, 20, not when you are 28 with three kids.

    And I do think women HAVE to show men a level respect who approach you. Yes his was response was excessive, but if I poked with a stick I’d also expect an excessive response.

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