Ray Rice, Domestic Violence, The Video and Sensationalizing and Racializing a Social Problem

Ray Rice with his wife Janay

Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice, or rather ex-football player Ray Rice, has been let go following the release of a horrific video of him knocking out and dragging his then-fiancée, now-wife Janay Palmer-Rice.

The event occurred months ago. NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell handed down a suspension from two games in July. This led to an outrage, calling for a harsher punishment against Rice. Recently, a video obtained by tabloid king TMZ was released to the public. In no time, mainstream outlets and social media made it viral. Soon, Rice’s contract was terminated presumably under the premise of watching the footage. Since its release, Mrs. Rice released statements ranging from apologies to depression:

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend. But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that (the) media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his a** of for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

There are so many people to blame for this whole matter. Ray Rice, of course, should’ve known better not to clock this woman as if she was a UFC fighter. Whether she provoked it or not is no excuse to almost put her in a coma, or worse.

I blame TMZ, a company all about (mostly black) celebrity tabloid drama that knowingly released the video for reasons speculated. I can assume Harvey Levin was more concerned about a way to profit from this problem as opposed to the actual beating as he is chuckling all the way to the bank with his millions. Whenever black people suffer, a white man somewhere will use it to make money.

I blame the NFL for thinking this is just a minor setback all the while praising Ray Rice for being a valuable player and a “nice guy” to boot. Maybe he is; I dunno. Still, that doesn’t exonerate him from hitting a woman.

Finally, I blame a culture where violence is idolized and where victims are shamed. We live in a world where if we punch someone in the face, we blame the person for having a face while excusing and supporting the one doing the punching! And someone would record the whole incident and post it online for a bunch of likes, shares, retweets, favorites, LOL’s, OMG’s and SMH’s.

So, Ray Rice is no longer playing. Now what? What will come of this now that he’s indefinitely benched?

We seem to think that kicking out a ball playing wife beater would be the end of it, but it’s not. Will Rice learn anything from this? Will he and his family get help? Will there be major changes within the NFL and how it deals with domestic violence as a result? There are so many questions to ask and so many things to consider that this is hardly a straightforward issue. Sadly, I fear this will fade away in a hot second until another face of domestic violence surfaces, and it will likely involve another black couple in the media spotlight which will start another color-aroused uproar.

Fox & Friends’ anchors, using all their worldly knowledge and tact at once, saw fit to poke fun at this incident. While citing Chris Brown and Rihanna and Jay Z and Solange, the crew jokingly saw that the message was that it was best to “take the stairs”. Keep in mind, they made references to famous black couples only.

In cases of domestic violence, or crime in general, in the world of sports or in Hollywood, more attention tends to focus heavily of black people and black couples. This problem with Ray Rice somehow set off yet another conversation surrounding this matter. I say ‘somehow’, because surprisingly – not really – there was never quite as loud a commotion when Ben Roethlisberger was accused of sexual assault – TWICE – from the media or from sports fans. And that is just one example.

Come to think of it, how many white athletes and white celebrities have you heard accused of rape, domestic violence and so forth right off the bat? My guess would be hardly at all. Even if it’s reported, it’s a quick blip on the radar, and then, it’s gone, unless it’s very serious like murder. Most white celebrity news, including those of the tabloid variety, are positive.

When the subject of domestic violence and rape are raised involving the rich and famous, usually black faces are plastered all over the media long and hard. This is not to say that we should minimize the impact of Ray Rice’s crime or domestic violence in general. But I can’t help but see it as a disguised attempt to turn this into a black pathology, demonizing black athletes as a whole, yet again, and con the public into thinking the mainstream media actually gives a damn about the matter of contention when it hardly screams whenever white athletes and white celebs do wrong.

In the end, if this problem is to be tackled honestly, blaming the victim, sensationalizing the issue and racializing it are all the wrong ways to go about doing it. I hope Mrs. Rice, as well as her husband, get some kind of help for the sake of their family without any mainstream interference and scrutiny.

27 thoughts on “Ray Rice, Domestic Violence, The Video and Sensationalizing and Racializing a Social Problem

  1. I am dreaming that Ray Rice will go through his place of worship and use their help to put himself and his wife through counseling. Bringing in a third party that can vouch for his sincerity can get him and his wife on track and put him on the road back into the NFL. Providing for his family will come first from now on. There is a great possibility for Rice in that he can turn himself into someone that others can take note of and realize that people can and do change.
    Only wish I could be this positive about White Supremacist changing as well.

  2. There’s a cute pic floating around the internets today showing Nick Young and Iggy Azalea snuggling on an airplane. Naturally, it’s causing a racist freakout in comments sections everywhere. People can’t not make it about race when a black person is involved.

    I am immune to athlete worship. A lot of them are entitled assholes, and I don’t care if Ray Rice is a “nice guy.” He laid a savage beat down on a woman half his size and frankly, I don’t give a shit if his career is over. He should have thought of that before he did what he did. That said, the various news media outlets and internet users seem compelled to put a black frame around this story. Wrong. This story is about a jerk with control issues beating a woman. But it has always been this way: A black person in the news is part of the black monolith first and an individual second (if at all). A white person is an individual, period. Even of the plot is exactly the same.

    1. That STILL doesn’t change the fact that a black man will get more attention that’s like if Beyoncé is driving drunk and injures or kills someone yet Nicole Kidman was also driving drunk and injured or killed someone. Beyoncé will get a million times more venom than Nicole and that’s bullshit. Regardless of how bad a person Ray Rice is that doesn’t in any way justifying a bunch of self-righteous racists assholes electively demonizing him or any other black man. I notice after Michael’s death the media hasn’t targeted anybody else particularly a white male.

      1. Actually ,there is a case that is very like this one involving an athlete in the MMA and his ex-girlfriend. This massive MMA fighter beat this 115 lb. woman nearly to death. There are photos of what she looked like. It’s pretty horrific.

        Of course there were the usual “blame the victim” adherents but there were also an unsurprising number of people wwho actually came to the abusers defense and made all kinds of excuses for why he did it. In other words, they treated him as an individual.

        There are numerous other cases out there involving sports players (even golf) abusing their wives and not even being mentioned in the mainstream media.

        I think you can accurately guess the races of all the participants.

  3. I, for one, couldn’t agree with you more, Brotha Wolf. Drug use was once reason for termination, even if the drug was alcohol, at least for white folks. Then, for awhile, the punitive approach got escalated to where you had to do time and go to programs and prove your rehabilitation and beg for mercy. Now, on the job, most narcotics users are offered treatment paid for by the company. How is domestic violence so different? Especially when a lot of wives, husbands, girl & boyfriends no doubt benefit from the company provided drug treatment, finding that the dishonesty and violence that their beloveds’ once displayed begins to improve and even disappear when substance abuse gets moved out. I’m not making excuses for any domestic violence but how can the NFL think putting out the idea that “a real man doesn’t hit a woman” is moral and, well, more manly? If they want to be all man to man about it, why not say that a real man owns the truth when he needs to get to be responsible for changing his anger management behavior and the NFL is going to throw down some financial assistance in making this happen. Instead the mostly white management of the NFL has to go and look down their nose, like their enthusiasm for corporate $ doesn’t add fuel to the fires already stoked too high with shrinking social, educational and good policing support programs. Does the NFL have an opinion on PO Darren Wilson’s home town violence too?

  4. I’m so glad that you brought up this topic.

    When I first heard about Ray Rice beating his wife and him bring fired from the team, I thought about how he was going to be another poster child for White supremacy. Don’t get me wrong..this man was a coward and deserves punishment,but now that he’s paying for his crime, I think that White society..again.. is using another Black man as an example.

    I think about Chris Brown during the period where he beat. Rhianna. While there were many in the Black community that condemned his actions, there were many Whites that did as well…but for some, it wasn’t about speaking about domestic violence, it was their cowardly way of calling him the “N” word without calling him that.

    I’m sorry but some of them( racists) are not very good at hiding their disdain of Black people and it will come out sooner or later,just like a YT clip i was looking at about some Urban Bike Riders. I remember encountering these guys on my way back from going out to dinner with my family. I’m not going to lie, their initial appearance startled me a little because they came out unexpectedly and to be honest the wheelies they were doing in the middle of the road was potentially dangerous but now that I’ve learned who they are, I’m not bothered by these guys whether they are in Baltimore, Atlanta, Bridgeport,, NYC etc( where a lot of these guys have the clubs in )..people..mostly White.. seem annoyed with them..to the point where they threatened death on them .. Why? because they are jealous,, annoyed that they are in their way..or as I see it ,because they are Black? It’s funny, Hell’s Angels have chapters in most of the US . Some of them are dangerous and racist..yet where the death threats with them? Though some of the posters were honest with their racism, others you could see without opening your eyes. Why hoard their feelings because you can translate what they are saying in those clips.

    This why I sometimes I cringe when I hear of Black people getting in jams such as the one that Chris and Ray got into because they give leeway into White society making them into examples.

  5. Thank you Brotha Wolf for talking about this evil racist double standard. Yes, violence against women is wrong. Ray Rice paid his dues but what about thousands of powerful nonblack men who done worse things to wives and children under the cover of law and got away with it?

    Black women, those hypocrites don’t care for us. They just want to play the “savior” to earn brownie points, never mind their tract record of violence against us. Here’s another video from Mr Superboy223:


    1. This! Many holier than black females in the blogworld are being very silent about the attack on Marlene Pinnock and don’t forget about that lowlife cop that is accused of sexually assaulting 8 different black women. Let’s see if they rush to speak out about him or yack about 8,000 times about Lil Wayne as usual.

      1. I have never harbored the delusion that White men gave one s***about Black women. I don’t see how anybody could think that. We are nothing more than pawns to them, if they can throw us under the bus, promote us, vilify us or support our endeavors, its only to to further their racist cause of eliminating Black men.

        I’m not saying Black men deserve all our support no matter what or that they don’t have issues. Cuz, OMFG, who doesn’t? But I will support a Black man over a white one most of the time. I at least have some idea of what his motivations might be for whatever he does.

  6. This situation contains tags like broken black love,wild buck,drugs,anger black woman and more. The black femininism cheerleaders,Sotomayor and other hate parties going had a field day on this temporary monster fest. I wonder these stars know the condition of being the pawn of elite. I could careless about the New Age Rome Football Games. We should worried more in other things like math,urban project,business and science.These stars careless about image and improvement for lower class community to reborn.

  7. This situation contains tags like broken black love,wild buck,drugs,Angry black woman and more. The black femininism cheerleaders,Sotomayor and other hate parties going had a field day on this temporary monster fest. I wonder these stars know the condition of being the pawn of elite. I could careless about the New Age Rome Football Games. We should worried more in other things like math,urban project,business and science.These stars careless about image and improvement for lower class community to reborn.

  8. It isn’t about black man vs black woman. We shouldn’t look up to these stars to fix our lives. After this ugly image with fights in elevator by these careless stars. People would run more into gay and interracial dating to get away from each other. People pointing at the football player to BQ with a bowl of mash potatoes.Instead,the other evil stuff lurking behind our backs. He’s the main centerpiece of unstable black buck need to be tame for distract. No woman can’t handle the beast. They would get the thughunters to buckbreak innocence men down. While real abusers get away

  9. I’m not saying what Rice did was right. But @ 5’8, and you gotta figure it’s a generous listing, the guy has a little man complex somewhere in there I bet.

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