Male Entitlement Explodes: The Isla Vista Massacre

Map of locations and timeline of the massacre

Another chapter in a long history of disgruntled male violence has opened up in Isla Vista, California near the University of California, Santa Barbara. A young man, who has documented and taped his frustrations of “loneliness, rejection and unfulfilled desires”, which include his hatred of women for supposedly treating him lower than sludge, went on a killing rampage that took the lives of seven people, including himself, and wounding thirteen. All of his victims were women and men.

It was reported that the young suspect was Elliot Rodger, the 22 year-old son of the Hunger Games assistant director Peter Rodger. It was also noted that the younger Rodger had mental problems. He had Asperger syndrome and “trouble making friends”. But what is also mentioned is that he suffered from male entitlement that was denied, according to his video and 140-page manifesto, and he wanted the world, especially women, to suffer dearly.

I’ve experienced, what I believed, a boatload of female ostracization since puberty. I was played, picked on, teased and mostly ignored by girls in high school and women in college. At the same time, I saw my friends and even relatives get more ‘positive’ attention from women. It included things like sitting beside them, phone calls, letters and even involved cuddling, lap sitting and even laying on top of them. I was jealous, and bitter. I started to hate and fear women more than I disliked the men they seem to be more comfortable with. I blamed women a lot for my bitterness, which I still have inside.

Telling this to friends, some of their responses suggested that the problem may not be with those women, but with me. At first, I felt insulted. I thought I was the true victim. I thought for some reason I was targeted because I was nice and quiet and that girls love the thug types. In fact, one woman suggested that was the problem. I wasn’t “hard” enough.

Looking back at what I’ve went through comparing it to the massacre in Isla Vista, I can see the connection. Like Rodger, I felt like women didn’t like me, at least not to my satisfaction. I felt entitled to get the same affections I’ve seen with my friends, because I felt like I deserved it.

I never thought that I was part of my own problem. When I was getting played, I enabled those to keep getting away with using me. I was too nice not to stand up and say ‘no more’. And I keep hoping for something in return like a kiss. When I felt ignored or left hanging, I let it be known by making them fell worse than I did. Of course, there were some females who initiated some drama, but I was still responsible for the rest. This makes me wonder about Elliot Rodger’s experiences with women. Was he a victim of mean girls, or was he a total dick to them which caused his own sexual banishment?

Elliot Rodger

In his manifesto which details not only his rage, but also his plan to carry out his vengeance in great detail, Rodgers declared his ‘War on Women‘ for depriving him of sex. He says that they deprived him of sex for a whole month and gave pleasure to other men. He didn’t go into detail, but it he evidently pissed. So pissed that he wants to “deliver a devastating blow that will shake all of them to the core of their wicked hearts.”

Rodger seems to have his sights set on a particular group of women, the sorority of Alpha Phi which he claims is the hottest:

After doing a lot of extensive research within the last year, I found out that the sorority with the most beautiful girls is Alpha Phi Sorority. I know exactly where their house is, and I’ve sat outside it in my car to stalk them many times. Alpha Phi sorority is full of hot, beautiful blonde girls; the kind of girls I’ve always desired but was never able to have because they all look down on me.

They are all spoiled, heartless, wicked bitches. They think they are superior to me, and if I ever tried to ask one on a date, they would reject me cruelly. I will sneak into their house at around 9:00 p.m. on the Day of Retribution, just before all of the partying starts, and slaughter every single one of them with my guns and knives.

If I have time, I will set their whole house on fire. Then we shall see who the superior one really is!

To some, this makes it seem like Rodgers was the victim. They will conclude that it was the fault of women for being so stuck-up not to offer themselves to a dude, which is what they’re supposed to them, according to them. Some will go so far as to say that those victims had it coming to them. But his manifesto revealed clues that he was not quite the gentleman he thought he was.

Elliot Rodger not only showed off his male privilege in his text, but also his white privilege as seen in his view of interracial relationships:

How could an inferior, ugly black boy be able to get a white girl and not me? I am beautiful, and I am half white myself. I am descended from British aristocracy. He is descended from slaves. I deserve it more. I tried not to believe his foul words, but they were already said, and it was hard to erase from my mind. If this is actually true, if this ugly black filth was able to have sex with a blonde white girl at the age of thirteen while I’ve had to suffer virginity all my life, then this just proves how ridiculous the female gender is. They would give themselves to this filthy scum, but they reject ME? The injustice!

This brings more clues into his true personality. His racism is glaring as he vents about a black male hooking up with a white female while he is left with his virginity. Not only is his misogynistic attitude obvious, but also his white male sexual entitlement.

We also see that he was insecure as shown in his highlighting of a couple happier than he ever was:

On one of my very last days as a teenager, as I was sitting at my usual place at the food court outside Domino’s, I saw a sight that shattered my heart to pieces. A tall, blonde, jock-type guy walked into one of the restaurants, and at his side was one of the sexiest girls I had ever seen. She too was tall and blonde. They were both taller than me, and they kissed each other passionately. They made me feel so inferior and worthless and small. I glared at them with intense hatred as I sat by myself in my lonely misery. I could never have a girl like that. The sight was burned into my memory, and it caused a scar that will haunt me.

And, like me, Rodgers talked about women being attracted to the ‘wrong type of male’:

When I dropped my college classes, I crossed a threshold that I knew existed, but never actually believed I would cross. It completely ended all hope I had of living a desirable life in Santa Barbara. I realized that I would be a virgin forever, condemned to suffer rejection and humiliation at the hands of women because they don’t fancy me, because their sexual attractions are flawed.

They are attracted to the wrong type of male. I always mused to myself that I would rather die than suffer such an existence, and I knew that if it came to that, I would exact my revenge upon the world in the most catastrophic way possible. At least then, I could die knowing that I fought back against the injustice that has been dealt to me.

Students of the University of Santa Barbara mourn the victims of the massacre.

It’s hard to feel sorry for Elliot Rodger. Going by his words, he was not looking for love as much as he wanted to get some. He wanted to bang hot chicks, but he got no luck whatsoever. And still going by his words, I can see why.

Rodger didn’t appear to see women as people. He saw them more as objects for his sexual appetite. And he was starving. Something set him off to the point of no return. And he set out to make others pay. He shot, stabbed and ran over as many people as he could before he ultimately took his own life. All of this is due to the toxic environment of male entitlement that can damage and destroy many lives, not just women but men also.

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50 thoughts on “Male Entitlement Explodes: The Isla Vista Massacre

  1. Entitlement, so arrogant thinking he was supposed to have what he wanted. They probably saw how creepy he was. What a loser. That’s the problem with those types. His parents probably didn’t teach him about life. That you can’t always get what you want. Then you always hear that the suspect the lunatic killer had some issue like “Aspergers or autism” it’s always something. RIP to the innocent victims and their families.

  2. So he wanted a hot blonde sorority/cheerleader chick and he couldn’t get one of those so he was pissed and decided to kill people. He was a loser, good riddance to his sorry ass.

  3. This guy makes no sense, how can he go on about how he hated seeing interracial couples when he is a product of one. The crazy thing is he also said some things about Asian men not being able to get white women and he’s part Asian.

    He was entitled but how the heck couldn’t he get women, he obviously had money, and he lives in cali, u mean to tell me he couldn’t find not one female to get with him even if it was superficial. This guy seem feminine too, and in his vid he sounds like some villain in a movie.

    “A tall, blonde, jock-type guy walked into one of the restaurants, and at his side was one of the sexiest girls I had ever seen. She too was tall and blonde. They were both taller than me, and they kissed each other passionately. They made me feel so inferior and worthless and small”

    just wow, so u get upset that two equally tall and blonde people are together, just because u can’t have her. most people want someone that is their equal, just because this clown wasn’t he felt mad.

    “I realized that I would be a virgin forever, condemned to suffer rejection and humiliation at the hands of women because they don’t fancy me, because their sexual attractions are flawed.”

    just because the women he was attracted weren’t attracted to him doesn’t mean there wasn’t a woman that was. just because some rejected u doesn’t mean they are the problem, do people ever think that some people reject u because they don’t want a relationship or they know u are not their equal or they are not ur equal. Think about it, the people that u get rejected by are usually not on ur level or u are not on theirs. lastly people say the penis does the pickin but u say women’s attractions are flawed, so when women are superficial and choose a man based on who turns us on its the end of the world, but a guy like this thinks he deserves the tall hot blonde when he himself is not. If u do not possess the traits u expect ur mate to have ur standards are too damn high period point blank.

  4. Wolf, I had to go and actually read your post. i was just opining about this Elliott Rodgers. I wondered on yesterday if those so called hot blonde sorority chick were giving it up to black dudes and if they were the so called wrong guys. I guess he hated the blacks too. I am not surprised he felt this way about black males. White privilege and whiteness and all this entitlement shit is a trip. I guess i should throw in the male privilege issue as well. It’s messed up. I respect you for being transparent.

    1. According to what he wrote, Rodger did have resentment towards seeing white women with black men. He was insanely jealous that they are supposedly getting some and he’s not. And he felt entitled to get some ass based on his lineage.

  5. Brothawolf:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for this honest and heartfelt testimony. I can’t even imagine how painful this must have been for you to write! However, I am glad that you wrote this, because it adds a personal perspective to this tragedy.

    Chauncey De Vega brought up some of the same topics about this loser’s entitlement attitude on his blog as well.

    Here’s another good piece about misogyny and violence:

    http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/24/elliot-rodgers-california-shooting-mental-health-misogyny

    Again, thank you for writing this!

  6. It’s George Sodini all over again. Let’s be honest, angry white men feel that their “divine” rights are being taken away by women in general and POC. They lash out violently at women and POC because they feel that their entitlement to have women is threatened by feminism/womens’ rights and POC pushing back against white male dominance. The current right-wing politics, media, and conservatives such as Rush Limbaugh, Bill O’Reilly, etc., produce anti woman environment similar to Eliot Rodgers.

    But it’s also angry white liberal men such as Bill Maher etc. Maher is also another entitled white man who thinks that the world is against white men.

    White men sensed that their world is coming to a close and that they cannot deal with demographic changes in America and the world that isn’t revolved around them and their “needs”.

    That’s what I think about this evil situation. What are your thoughts on this?

    S. Baldwin

  7. the nerve of this little racist piece of shit!!!!!!! he looks like he’s been injecting botox into his lips since the age of 7…

    ” I am descended from British aristocracy, he’s descended from slaves I deserve it more. I tried not to believe his foul words, but they were already said, and it was hard to erase from my mind. If this is actually true, if this ugly black filth was able to have sex with a blonde white girl at the age of thirteen while I’ve had to suffer virginity all my life, then this just proves how ridiculous the female gender is. They would give themselves to this filthy scum, but they reject ME? The injustice!”

    The injustice was that his parents brought his sorry excuse of a human being into this world, that was a good fuck wasted on his fake botox ken doll wannabe ass. atleast justice is served, cause that piece of shit finally did one thing right, he killed himself…. I hope he suffers in hell.. that arrogant Edomite cunt…

  8. and the nerve of him calling people ugly, maybe the reason girls didn’t want his sorry ass was probably because he looked like a straight up transvestite………

    1. But there are people pointing out that he was not “fully white” as his mother is Chinese. He even admitted to not being able to fit in with white kids at his school.

    1. Yeah. Like Chauncey DeVega said in his article about the massacre, white men who shoot have mental problems while Arabians and Muslims are terrorists and black men are thugs.

  9. Dude was also half-Asian. This is what the media and America feeds and when rich kids don’t stay down to Earth and practical you get a nightmarish egotistical psychopath running around driving around in a BMW 6 series. That’s what happens when I kid never learns not to value material items and a social shallowness. Stay humble and learn how things work kids. When you break down everything to smaller pieces and examine them maybe you’ll change your attitude…..

  10. Brothawolf it is nice that u used this to point out ur own feelings of entitlement toward some women.

    “some of their responses suggested that the problem may not be with those women, but with me. At first, I felt insulted. I thought I was the true victim. I thought for some reason I was targeted because I was nice and quiet and that girls love the thug types. In fact, one woman suggested that was the problem. I wasn’t “hard” enough.”

    I appreciate u being honest brothawolf. There are many dysfunctional people in this world and most of the time they gravitate towards dysfunctional partners. People should not feel mad that someone rejected them, because most of the time that person is not right for them. There are women that go for the “thug” types, but most of the time they are dysfunctional as well, and have emotional and self esteem issues. Nobody can convince someone that they are worthy of love and being treated with respect, the individual has to learn that themselves. The dysfunctional people will reject someone that isn’t dysfunctional and emotionally mature, because to them it is not “exciting” or “normal”. They are emotionally immature and someone who is mature repels them because they know if they get with that mature person it will make them do better or at least examine themselves, some don’t want that they would rather have the blinders on than see their dysfunction and have to fix it.

    I look at how some family member relationships are, I heard stories about how my aunt was when she was younger and I see her now and she changed. She made mistakes and chased after the wrong men and broke the heart of a good man, but she eventually matured and chose the right man for her. she is married now to a man that she dated before but didn’t work out, sometimes people have to go through the bad to see and appreciate the good.

    My uncle has dated and married the wrong kind of women because he was trying to help them while they were dysfunctional and immature, sometimes u have to let go because u are not helping but enabling. Now that he’s dealt with all of that he matured and has chosen a different kind of woman and he’s getting married next month.

    People have to look at themselves, even the good person that feels they deserve somebody, if that somebody is dysfunctional that u are attracted to them most of the time u have some level of dysfunction as well, and that is what needs work, don’t worry about that person u want that is with that no good man/woman, because they are not a catch, they are just as dysfunctional if not more dysfunctional as that other person because they are enablers.

    1. As usual, you left a lot of great gems there.

      With me, it wasn’t really about rejection as it is treatment. In high school especially, I was used by one girl over and over. Part of that was my fault. I should’ve known after the second time, but I was still hopeful for that “kiss” she said she’d give me. Then, there were girls who acted like they liked me, but they were really making fun of me. I suspected that some were when they gave me fake numbers.

      1. sorry to hear that, some females will use their looks or anything else to get people to do stuff for them. The people that play games are playing themselves, I can’t stand people that act like they like someone and lead them on or the people that won’t admit they like someone. i’m single, I’ve always been put in the friend zone which is fine with me, because then I get to see how these guys really act and talk when nobody’s around. It is hard trying to tell if someone is genuine or just messing with u. the women that give fake numbers smh, sometimes it is best to give the woman ur number then if she doesn’t call or text u will know she is not interested, but she may try to make up some excuse about being busy or losing her phone or use someone else’s phone.

        if a woman is really interested she will not leave u with empty promises for affection and saying if u do this for me then i’ll give u a kiss, she more than likely is testing u to see how much she can get from u. if a woman likes someone she will kiss him whether he does those things she asks or not because she loves him for who he is and not just for what he can do for her.

      2. This girl told me she would kiss me if I gave her a dollar. She owes me about five or seven dollars lol. But it wasn’t just her, it was quite a bit of females from high school and a few in college. In a way, my view towards women was being molded by them. Soon, I started to no longer trust them or believe them when it came to them and me.

        I’ve never been kissed just because a girl wanted to. I was kissed once after I drew a picture for her. It was her way of telling me that she liked it. But in high school, my cousin told me one girl wanted to kiss him, and she did, passionately. That got me jealous.

  11. This isn’t male privilege this is WHITE MALE PRIVILEGE! This snotnosed little asshole was entitled beyond belief. Like those punkass white boys killing white girls who rejected them then blame it on bullying which was pure bullshit. He was obviously an arrogant asswipe that only cared about himself. And you would think someone supposedly so into looks wouldn’t walk around looking like a freakish cross between Joan Rivers and Phyliss Diller

    1. That’s another thing. He basically was overprivileged. So, it’s hard for me to believe that women were mean to him for the reasons he described. I’m starting to see more and more reasons to conclude that he was a snob to others which lead to his own isolation.

  12. oh brothawolf u should’ve gotten a kiss before giving her money lol, don’t feel bad the last time I had a kiss was when I was about 8 with my puppy love boyfriend rofl. I have no regrets, I don’t wanna kiss someone just because, if i’m not feeling them i’m not going to lead them on I will be straight up with them. People need to stop playing games, if the person i’m interested in doesn’t say anything about me or liking me I keep it moving. I don’t know why these dysfunctional guys have crushes on me, and the guys I do like are already taken. the dysfunctional guys you’ll never have me, sheeit i’d rather wait for the other guy’s relationship to end and try to get with him heck i’m patient I got time, my age group relationships last for a few weeks or months so I won’t have to wait too long lmbao.

  13. “He had a smirk; smiling like he was happy,” an eyewitness said about gunman Elliot Roger. Young, white males are constantly on a murder mission. And as you’ve been seeing they’re all coming from so called “good homes, with plenty of money.” They’re not killing over economic struggle-they kill just because. This is the century that a lot of white America’s roosters will be coming home to roost. They put all those guns on urban streets and it was all good until those guns worked their way back to the suburbs.Is it still safe for black youths to go to school with young white males? Well, think about it; there’s a public health crisis going on that white folks are trying to hide. They keep telling us that all these young, white murderer’s are crazy. One television analyst said Elliot Roger was “absolutely insane.”Well, we do know that he was absolutely blood thirsty-he couldn’t get enough blood. After stabbing his roommates to death, it still-wasn’t enough blood.Well, if all these young, white males are crazy, the government needs to warn the public and find out how they got so damn nuts. Young, white male insanity is spreading like chicken pox around high schools and college campuses, and all we can do is hold our breath until the next one goes off.

    Where are the commercials, flyers, letters, e-mails or texts alerting the public for symptoms to look for in their white male classmates? If the kids Elliot Roger stabbed to death were warned about the young, white male then they may still be alive. He probably killed them in their sleep. If they knew what time it was, they could have at least slept with one eye open. White supremacists are so anxious to protect the young, white male’s image that they’ll sacrifice the lives of everybody in America to do it. A far cry from the image they’ve been painting of young black boys as public enemy number one. Now, if these young white males are not crazy and they’re only telling us they’re crazy because white folks are embarrassed of them, that’s an even bigger problem! Elliot Roger looked and sounded sane to me. None of the crazy people I know write book long manifestos or post video blogs. Think about who’s raising these crazy, white kids? White folks with their own style of child rearing.
    Keep in mind, these are the same white folks telling us how to raise our kids. In fact, demanding we raise our kids the same way they raise theirs or else they’ll call child protective services. That’s a total disrespect of black culture. It was no more for him to get rejected by women-told no, that he then wants to kill everything in sight! I guess his parents gave him time outs instead of whipping his pretentious ass when he misbehaved. Any person of color that would take advice from white folks on child rearing is an absolute idiot. You’d better recognize: There’s never going to be enough bloodshed for this new generation of young, white, male mass murderers. And there are countless more white, male mass murderer’s to come. And since white supremacist aren’t going to warn you-I will. They’re protecting their interests-not yours!

    1. I watched a commentary about the murder that featured footage of the killer’s tapes. It was creepier than watching a Wes Craven film marathon on the evening of Friday the 13th during a thunderstorm.

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