by Lavern Merriweather
Well, I actually don’t hate it so much as what it implies, and that is something very negative when it’s used to describe a black female singing star. We are all already fully aware that any personality trait seen as positive or sympathetic in a white person is automatically made negative when the person is black. Think about it. A white male celebrity or athlete who is full of himself is thought of as confident or self-assured yet a black male with the same traits is called arrogant or entitled. In the case of a black female, she is called a ‘diva’.
Now, I don’t know where exactly this word comes from or what it means necessarily. What I do know, however, is that when you hear that word associated with a black woman it’s never anything good, at least not any time white people in the media are using it, even when it’s used for the women they pretend to like such as Mariah Carey, Beyonce or Rhianna. There is always some underlining resentment lurking beneath the surface, and all they need is an opportunity to vilify her.
Lord knows they loved using that word to describe Whitney Houston. Just like they loved ripping her to pieces at every fucking opportunity, while at the same time showing compassion for the white female celebrities afflicted with her same problems. But that’s white folks in the media for you. Whenever they have a problem, there is always some bullshit excuse reason for it. Yet, when you are black, it’s your fault, because you are obviously too stupid and pathetic to get your shit together.
Some black folks have even had the nerve to tell me on the message boards that the reason Whitney was singled out was because of her funky attitude. Okay, first of all, if somebody was being blatantly and unabashedly racist towards me, then hell fucking yes; I would give them attitude in many cases ten times over. Secondly, I never heard ONE person who talked shit about her utter a peep that it was because she had a nasty temperament. No, they always criticized her for having the very same troubles as the white women they invited on their crappy ass program.
And for those who claim I’m just playing the race card, explain how in the hell are you going to give me grief for doing the exact same thing that many of your guests do. Their hatred for Whitney had nothing to do with anything else other than the fact that she was beautiful, black, talented, successful and thin, loved by many people. The white male media elite can’t stand any black woman who has everything and more. So, they look for any excuse, and I do mean any, to trash her.
I find it interesting that most of the people saying nasty things about Whitney were folks she probably never would have wasted one minute of her time on. By that, I mean that none of them actually knew her personally, and as we all know by now if you are a black celebrity and your private life isn’t shared with the media, then they will invent one for you. Many times, they made up of some of the worst lies created and even if they aren’t lies, your faults will not be seen with the same lens of understanding that they use for white folks, especially their most prized possession: white women.
Granted, some old school performers such as Liza Minelli and Barbara Streisand have also been called divas. However, the word has never been labeled across their forehead like some big Scarlett ‘A’ alerting everyone to just how much of an obnoxious pig she is and what a big ass pain she is to deal with, regardless if there are famous white women that demand Evian water to wash their hair. When a white woman is a jackass, most people in the media and public just roll their eyes, but let that be a Negress, and she’s called a bitch, along with every other word in the book.
Recently, A-list actress Reese Witherspoon and her husband were pulled over for a suspected DUI. Once they got out of the car, Reese turned into hell on wheels getting right in the cop’s face. She snapped at him, “DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?”, and made many threats about having him fired. Obviously, little miss “Legally Blonde” didn’t like the law not working in her favor and being treated like everyone else. Yet, when many in the media spoke about her run-in with the law, they called her a badass, saying that she had gumption and she really told that cop off. Fucking spare me!
Please! She was acting like a spoiled little brat, and her ass should have at least spent a night in jail. How much of Bill Gates billions you want to bet that if that were a black female, if would be a much different story? This goes right back to that whole issue of privilege. When you are a second class citizen in America, you are not allowed to think highly of yourself no matter your looks, education or economic status. Your level of self–esteem should be solely determined by those who insist that they are above you and therefore, better than you. Apparently Mr. Jesse Jackson had it all wrong when he spoke the iconic words “I am somebody!” What he was supposed to say is that I’m whatever the white dominated powers-that-be tell me I am. And I better not say otherwise or have the gall to disagree, lest you face the same disgraceful treatment as most black women who are public figures.
White people in the media love to label black folks and keep score, because it makes them feel superior. They can’t stand it when someone, especially one who holds the lowest rung on the ladder, has the nerve to think more of herself and ruin their comfort level. It’s precisely why there are so many welcome and celebrated potshots being taken at the First Lady. And why some moronic butt-ugly cunt named Kathy Griffin thinks that being verbally aggressive with Arab men makes her a ‘strong black woman’. Memo to Ms. Griffin: you aren’t a strong black woman, just a very stupid white one.