Zerlina Maxwell is a rape survivor. Ms. Maxwell is also a law student, political commentator, and living with death threats. Last week, she suggested teaching men not to rape as an option to arming women with guns. For this, Maxwell received a threat to slit her throat.
Rape remains an obstacle to female advancement. There were about 270,000 rapes or sexual assaults in 2010 compared with 556,000 in 1995, says the Justice Department. And, “1 in 5 women will be raped during their lifetime,” said President Barack Obama.
Ms. Maxwell suggested that men be taught not to rape while discussing gun control on a FOX channel program. A woman testified before Congress that a gun would have prevented her rape. Congresswoman Evie Hudak (D-CO) responded that a gun could become another weapon in the rapist’s arsenal.
Ms. Maxwell, a guest on FOX, watched the clip of the hearing and said teaching men not to rape is one way to prevent sexual assault. Guns, women, and rape are inflammatory issues when discussed alone. Together, the backlash was vicious. The threats made in the public domain. Jordan Meyer alledgedly wrote to Maxwell: “Ur what’s wrong with America. I hope u get raped. And killed. By an out of control black man.” Another message Maxwell received from a @jones17doug said: “You need to be gang raped to you get some common sense. You stupid b—h.”
A gun can level out the physical powser of a man under certain circumstances. However, it assumes a woman without a gun is asking to be raped. Even the gun debate makes the burden hers. It is not only her clothes, behavior, and her lifestyle. It is her failure to carry a firearm causing sexual assault. At trial, gun-toting jurors could judge a victim harshly for failing to have a gun. Being unarmed could mean she did not take every possible precaution for her own safety.
March is Women’s Month. Women’s Month began with International Women’s Day in March of 1911. Women received the right in 1920. In 1987, Congress expanded International Women’s Day to Women’s Month. Like February’s Black History Month, March allows for an assessment of progress and obstacles. Passage of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is progress.
After a heated Congressional battle President Barack Obama signed its reauthorization on March 7. Instead of celebrating the passage of VAWA, Ms. Maxwell was receiving death threats. VAWA seeks to reduce sexual assault on college campuses and provides funds for anti-trafficking programs. Originally passed in 1994, under President Bill Clinton, VAWA will provide services to victims of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking, including immigrants, LGBT, and those living on tribal lands.
VAWA authorizes $659 million a year, over five years, to provide transitional housing, legal assistance, law enforcement training and hotlines related to sexual assault and violence against women. Most of these programs are for rape victims and survivors. But, there is little for rape prevention.
Rape is a complex combination of power, rage, and mental illness. Ms. Maxwell knew her rapist. Rapists are neighbors and parents, co-workers and college students, boy-friends and religious figures. Rape victims are infants and elders, nuns and soldiers, boys and women.
Rapes take place at home, work, and in public spaces. If a gun is the only way to prevent rape then she would have to carry it at all times, and in all places, and at all ages. Not all men feel the need to harm defenseless women and children. But some men do. Since not all men commit rape, it can be assumed most men learned it was unacceptable, sick, and criminal behavior.
That lesson needs to become a part of raising a boy to manhood. However, it means parents accept rape occurs and someone’s son is committing it. Then, parents must reach their children early and teach them not to harm women. These lessons are not a substitute for women who feel safer with a gun. However, it is a viable supplement to any program or weapon or act of Congress.
Zerlina Maxwell advocated teaching men not to rape women. To which a person named Michael Shapiro, of NY, wrote on Ms. Maxwell’s blog: “N—-r! I hope you get raped and your throat cut. Maybe then you understand why white women have to be armed. DIE B—H!”
She alerted the FBI.
The next following comes from Colorlines and Ebony, Zerlina Maxwell Offers 5 Ways We Can Teach Men Not To Rape:
1. Teach young men about legal consent: Legal consent is number one for a reason. Without it, sexual contact with someone is rape whether you intended to rape or not. A woman who is drunk, unconscious, sleeping cannot give legal consent. And it’s not about a woman simply saying “no,” it’s really about making certain she’s saying yes.
2. Teach young men to see women’s humanity, instead of seeing them as sexual objects there for male pleasure: There is a reason why women are shamed into silence and teenage boys in Steubenville, Ohio are caught on camera laughing about gang raping an unconscious girl at a party. The dehumanization of women spans all areas of American life.
3. Teach young men how to express healthy masculinity: The question that’s being asked about what women can do to prevent violence against them is the wrong question. It’s not what can a woman say or do that can prevent being attacked. We need to turn that paradigm
4. Teach young men to believe women who come forward and not to blame the victim: The vast majority of women do not report their rapes to the police and many more only tell one or two people in confidence.
5. Teach young men about bystander intervention: Both Men Stopping Violence and Men Can Stop Rape have bystander intervention workshops for men of all ages. “It’s about community accountability,” says Pandit, “We require men to talk to other men in their lives and tell them about these programs. It is important that we have community networks that hold men accountable.”