Guest Post: High Minded Negroes

by Lavern Merriweather

Recently, Brotha wrote a post about the outrage from black people over a show on the Oxygen cable network called All My Baby Mommas. Starring a rapper by the name of Shawty Lo and the women who got knocked up, which at last count was 10 women and 11 babies. So, what was this fool trying to do, create a harem or something? Lord, I hope not and maybe it’s not 100% fair to call him a fool without calling the women he made the babies with that also. Because I hate when any time a black male has a bunch of babies out of wedlock and is being irresponsible black people make it seem as if he reveled in the stupidity all by himself.

The women involved are just as much at fault as he is, if not more. So, because they had the option of saying no when they found out how many kids he already had. Instead, they wanted to be part of this mess, and hopefully someday, bask in the limelight of his supposed ‘career’.

Actually, that’s not what this post is really about. It’s about the fallout from the holier than black people who cry and whine when they think other black people are behaving in a way that makes us all look bad. This always makes me think, who are they so damn worried about? Is it white people they are afraid of seeing this? Most likely, that’s what it is despite their denials to the contrary. They will tell you that they don’t want their kids being exposed to such nonsense. Yeah, and I’m going to be the first female president of America. Woo-hoo!

Bullshit! Those people are fretting over what whitey will think, which I find rather odd seeing how they go very batshit any time another black person brings up the fact that many white people do the very same thing. Nobody has a problem with the show 16 and Pregnant or the show Sister Wives. By the way, those polygamist white males with their so called ‘wives’ are honestly no better than Shawty. The problem is that we have bought so much into the bullshit that whatever white people do is acceptable even while we are criticizing one another for the SAME behavior. We have brought into the lie that as long as white people put a shiny enough gleem on their bad behavior then it’s no longer bad or at least not as bad as when we are doing it.

And for those Negroes who say I don’t want to have to pay for this dumb nigga’s many mouths to feed, well guess what? Who do you think is paying for the white males and their many wives families? Most of those men are not independently wealthy. So, they have to rely on the very same source Shawty and his big brood will have to depend on.

I remember an interview with a man who was a neighbor of David Koresh and his branch Davidian followers when they lived in Waco, and he said that often times there would be several women from the compound who would go grocery shopping. And that those women would have 9 carts overflowing with food. I will give you three guesses as to how they could afford to pay for such a bill. Yet I’ll bet the high minded crowd wouldn’t have the time to concern themselves with that or a little thing like consistency.

It amazes me how black people can constantly complain about the dominant white patriarchal society yet turn right around and engage in their most blatantly hypocritical and racist practices. Bottom line, I couldn’t give two shits less about this dumbass or his gang of groupie baby dispensers. They have zero to do with my life, and I could care even less about what ‘image’ they are projecting and who would it cause to be the most judgmental, especially when you consider that they themselves are really in no position to judge. Unless, they want me to go there on all their baby momma drama.

I found it very offense when I saw on 20/20 about a black woman offering free weddings because she was sick of seeing black people having babies but no ring. Sorry, but frankly she needs to mind her own business. And how is she teaching them anything by rewarding their irresponsibility? I saw one couple that had three kids together. Oh, so you can pay for a bunch of kids but you can’t pay to walk down the aisle?

Some people, even black folks, are just idiots and don’t need a bunch of nosy ass Nellies leading them around by the nose trying to teach them how to be more respectable. They are grown and know what they are doing. It would be one thing if this were truly about concern for the kids who didn’t ask to be part of this stupidity, but it’s not. It’s about black people who say one thing but then do another for a group of people who are so defiant against the greater supremacist society. We seem to have developed many of their inconsistencies when it comes to morality.

America is not a moral place, and condemning it on the left while you condone it on the right is not doing anyone a favor, including you. Why stop at just Shawty? This is the same network that houses that foolishness known as Bad Girls Club while you are it let us also go after that shitty Next Top Model junk. Hell, I wouldn’t shed a tear if all the reality shows were done away with, but you won’t do it by selectively playing morality police and hypocritical singling out only certain people. The only power that someone else’s opinion of you has is how much you choose to give it.

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15 thoughts on “Guest Post: High Minded Negroes

  1. Well I’m going to keep it real with you. I think Shawty Lo and his baby mama’s DO make black people as a whole look bad. Regardless if whites see the show or not. They doesn’t really matter to me. I’m not sure if I’m what you would call “high minded”,but I do have morals and values. And I think putting this type of behavior on display is sick. But then again,I don’t like the Kardashians,Jersey Shore,Bad Girls Club or Miami Housewives either. It’s all trashy television to me. It doesn’t matter if the cast is black,white,hispanic or Asian. Trash is trash. But I’m not concerned about other races–I’m concerned about MY people and how it affects our community. That’s why I don’t care of Showty Lo’s show or any show similar to it.

  2. Another Excellent post or should I say guess post,
    I’m still assimilating this point of view – even though such media displays are controlled by whites with the intention of having “everyone” view blacks stereotypically – you really have to have low intelligence AND be insecure to think that it reflects on you anymore then any other pathological human behavior reflects directly on you just because your members of the same “extremely large” group.

  3. This post has some great points.

    The kind of white people who honestly believe that a show like this proves something about “black people” aren’t the sort black people should be worried about. They already think a certain way about blacks and don’t plan on amending their opinion, no matter how many Barack Obamas there are to counteract the Shawty-Los. But blacks have been primed to worry about what the white majority thinks of them, because this opinion could have devastating effects on the treatment towards black people everywhere. One wrong word or stereotype could lead to the destruction of entire black communities, and this has been true for a very long time. And no one should ever think that the white racists who exist today don’t remember this and thrive on it.

    1. Exactly. That’s likely the underlying fear that many blacks have. They know there are many ignorant white people with too much power and they could easily make black people’s live miserable based on their prejudices. It has happened. It’s happening, and it will happen. That is the core of institutional racism.

      1. Sadly that is so true. I can only imagine that there’s someone out there in a position of power who will use this program as an excuse to make things harder for black people. I’m sure most black people know that this show doesn’t reflect them or their entire populace, but that won’t stop the next interviewer or enrollment board member from using it like that.

  4. Hello Ms. Merriweather, granted, you’ve raised some valid points in your post, “High Minded Negroes”. However, quite a few of your points are quite premature in terms of the socio-political relationship between blacks and whites in this country. You stated that your post is about: “the holier than black people who cry and whine when they think other black people are behaving in a way that makes us all look bad. This always makes me think, who are they so damn worried about?” From this premise alone, it appears that you’re claiming that blacks are on equal footing and everything else is fair and balanced. Now, this is what I’d refer to as a high minded Negro, someone who thinks that he or she has the same social and political value as a white person in this country. Not so fast, slow your roll Sista. Blacks in this country do not own the necessary equipment to mass produce videos and photographic images. We do not have television networks that rival CNN, Fox News or MSNBC. In this day and age, an easily accessible Shawty Lo image or video with eleven girlfriends and some of his kids could be uploaded to a server sent around the world to many different countries within a few minutes. Additionally, blacks are usually thought of as a monolithic group, not as individuals. Therefore, and in short, when not so flattering images of Shawty Lo is sent around the world, this is not only a representation of him and his Baby Mamas, it’s actually a misrepresentation of blacks in general. This is where I dissent from your post. Whether you like it or not, you are included as one of those Baby Mamas just as soon as an Italian, German or Russian person launch a Shawty Lo video or still image on their electronic device. Indeed Sista, you are included merely due to your skin tone. You don’t, nor do I have an option to remove or separate yourself from this grotesque misrepresentation. Therefore, and to answer your question above, “who are they so damn worried about”, the black diaspora is whining about not only you being misrepresented, but all blacks.

    Again, “it’s not about what whitey thinks”, I could care less about that they think. However, it’s more a concern about the misrepresentation of blacks as a whole. As I’ve stated before, blacks are not thought of in singularity terms. Whitey doesn’t think about Lavern Merriweather as an autonomous and separate person from her blackness. To them, you’re just another “closet Baby Mama”, absent a television series. But you’re still attached to the manner in the women would’ve been depicted on Shawty Lo. Even further, it’s not far-fetched to assume that they think you spread your legs just as frequently, if not more so than those that would’ve been highlighted on Shawty Lo’s meaningless, crappy show. Seriously, this is what you should be worried about and refrain from jabbing at those whom you incorrectly consider to be “High Minded Negroes.” To me, they’re the individuals who I’d consider to be consciously vigilant, unlike you.

    Moreover, some have also suggested that, “you really have to have low intelligence AND be insecure to think that it reflects on you.” I’m not buying this premise because as I’ve stated above and it bears repeating: black Americans are incorrectly thought of as a groupuscule or as entire group, not as individuals that make up the group.
    Even further, if Oxygen network, who I’m quite certain is owned by mostly whites, if not entirely, wants to create demeaning show such as 16 and Pregnant and Sister Wives depicting whites in a debased manner, that’s an issue for the white community to contend with. However, it doesn’t give the Oxygen network the right to highlight the black community in the same manner. If whitey is asinine enough to allow these show to be aired without even as much as an uproar against these shows being aired uncontested, that’s on them.

    Another point of your post that I have a problem with and will therefore refute it, you stated regarding blacks: “they engage in their most blatantly hypocritical and racist practices.” Just because blacks are generally against Shawty Lo’s dumb-ass show, doesn’t make them hypocritical or racist. Personally, I’m offended that the Oxygen (mostly white) network would have the audacity to depict another group of people in a distastefully, racist manner. There is no black owned network that airs a show depicting whites in a disparaging or insipid manner. So how then, could blacks be considered racists simply because they objected to the manner in which the Oxygen network would’ve displayed blacks through a show such as Shawty Lo?

    Again, you’ve made some good points; however, it’s just that the vast majority of them are quite premature. In summary, shame on you for believing that we are all on equal social and political footing from a demographic standpoint in Amerikkka.

    1. Wow that was a read ok here’s the thing my point is that it’s not our JOB to monitor what happens in the lives of every other black person. And part of the way I counteract white people’s generalizing is I tell them to f**k off. You aren’t going to change anything by cowtowing to the status quo and that’s what these people are doing by complaining. Granted there are some whites who will use this and you know what I do I just throw a show like “Sister Wives” right back in their face. No we are not looked at as individuals but so what those people don’t make or break me unless they step to my face and say something. Which most likely they don’t have the guts to do and that’s why I said what I said.

  5. Reblogged this on Steph's Blog and commented:
    Lavern Merriweather’s brilliant commentary:

    “America is not a moral place, and condemning it on the left while you condone it on the right is not doing anyone a favor, including you. Why stop at just Shawty? This is the same network that houses that foolishness known as Bad Girls Club while you are it let us also go after that shitty Next Top Model junk. Hell, I wouldn’t shed a tear if all the reality shows were done away with, but you won’t do it by selectively playing morality police and hypocritical singling out only certain people. The only power that someone else’s opinion of you has is how much you choose to give it.”- Lavern Merriweather from Brotha Wolf Blog

    Amen to that and many more!

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