Guest Post: Black Babies at Wal-Mart

Baby: This heffa’s crazy!

by Lavern Merriweather

Over the years, there have been a number of white female celebrities who have adopted black babies: Sandra Bullock, Charlize Theron, Mariska Hargitay, Angelina Jolie, Kristin Davis and Madonna are just a few names that come to mind. And something has always struck me ever since I read an article about this little trend by a black male columnist whose name escapes me. Namely that is why is it that these women never have black children the old fashioned way? No they get them express mail order bride, COD delivery style and it’s always from some far off third world African country as if black babies in America have some sort of ‘ghetto cooties’ from birth. Therefore, making them unlovable and unappealing enough to want to raise in the lavish home of these very wealthy women.

Sandra Bullock is the most troubling example. Her dreck movie The Blind Side aside, it’s very shifty and disturbing that her ex cavorted with a sleazy, nasty anti-Semitic stripper who also spelled the words ‘white power’ with her son’s toy blocks and has a ‘white power’ tattoo. Her ex’s first wife just married a white supremacist asshole (or maybe she was already married to one). All while Jesse James himself was seen in a picture imitating Hitler and doing the Nazi salute which has led some to think that Sandy only adopted little Louis to distance herself from all the sicko hatred. Whether this is a publicity stunt or not is beyond me. However, I do find it very questionable about the timing of her adopting a black child. And if this is the case then it makes me think that Sandra probably had some inkling about what type of man she was marrying and just didn’t give a crap. This would pretty much make Ms. Bullock an asshole herself and makes me very sad for that little boy who has to grow up in such a messed up confused environment. 

This leads me to another point I have seen a number of marriages with black celebrities both male AND female to white people, something I have never understood considering that you very rarely, if ever, see the reverse. Sure, there is Ted Danson and that lady from “Grey’s Anatomy” but otherwise you won’t see many white celebrities rushing to marry outside their race to the degree that we black folks do. Recently, in a TV interview, Mike Tyson felt some incessant need to rehash the non secret that his ex-wife Robin Givens used to date Hollywood mega-star Brad Pitt. And Ms. Givens has been trying desperately to keep herself relevant by bragging constantly about this tidbit of gossip, apparently oblivious to the fact that their relationship has been over for some time. On top of that he dated her when he was a nobody. I don’t know Brad personally, but I’ll bet my last pennies he probably wouldn’t be caught dead with Robin on his arm now, neither would any of the other white guys she dated before they became famous. I don’t hear Brad or any of them talking endlessly about her so why does she still think it’s some kind of feather in her cap to always yack about a man who has long since dumped her ass? Earth to Robin, you ain’t with him anymore. He’s currently with a woman who is much more on his level. Meaning, she is just as white as he is.

I can vividly recall a young black woman on a talk show saying that every time you see a black man with a white woman she is always some, and I quote, ‘ghetto white girl’.  I can only assume means that she is always some broke princess wannabe, but at least she is with him in a certain sense which is more than I can say for those white female celebrities who like to buy their babies wholesale. It’s almost as if having a black child in Holly-white has become an accessory the same way some socialites sluts like Paris Hilton carry around cute little pooches in their fancy purses.

Almost my ass! It IS, like that one time when I was on another website, there was a heated debate when it was reported that Charlize Theron had adopted her daughter. Some people said who cares who adopts that girl Ms. Theron is rich as all get out and that little girl will want for nothing, while others say she is going to have a racial identity crisis being raised by a rich white woman in la la land whose only true motivation was how ‘charitable’ she can look. They might as well be saying, “We will raise you as our own, but we don’t want to share with you our livelihood, neighborhood or plush big beds, especially our beds!” But, the problem with that mindset is that a child is not an accessory like a pretty piece of jewelry or a new sportscar. They are real living, breathing, human beings who need to be cared for and nurtured in a way that has nothing to do with money. So, I truly do hope that there is no ‘white savior’ bs going on with these adoptions and that these people do really plan on caring for those children in a good sensible loving way. Still, I can’t help but feel in the back of my mind that these kids mean no more to these supposed do-gooders than the fancy gowns and expensive high heels that they strut around in on any given awards show.

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52 thoughts on “Guest Post: Black Babies at Wal-Mart

  1. I would agree; I think there is a new fad in Hollywood. However, why international adoptions instead of American black babies? I can answer that. About 6 months ago I finished an extensive report on Transnational and transracial adoption. While it may be a bit more expensive (but a drop in the bucket for our Hollywood bunch) it is far easier with less paperwork and less time to adopt transnationally. Time is really the biggest factor. It can take years (usually 2, if there’s no complications) to adopt a baby in America; most transnational adoptions are complete within 6 months. This is also why regular, everyday Americans have begun to turn to transnational adoptions.

    I don’t doubt for a second, though, that every one of those children will eventually experience a racial identity crisis. White people have no business raising children of color. They lack every tool necessary to raise a child of color in a country that relies so heavily on racism.
    But it’s a catch-22 situation. What’s worse really? The foster system (which, OMG is horrible!!!) or a good home with racial identity problems? It’s hard to decide.

    1. What I don’t understand is that there are poor European children, particularly in the east in former Soviet blocs. Why won’t they adopt them? May only guess is that they think that Africa is a continent of poverty, disease and war and that only white people can save them, while kids in Europe can take care of themselves because there hardly any issues of poverty there.

      1. The two main areas for transnational adoptions are Asia and Africa, and mostly within the more impoverished areas. You’ll notice, there’s not a lot of Japanese or Korean babies being adopted (relatively wealthy countries now), but Chinese, Tibetan, Thai & Vietnamese babies top the charts for Asia. As for Africa, it’s more common in the countries like Nigeria, Ghana, and Uganda.
        I think as far as Americans are concerned, with the lack of knowledge in both geography and global events, the fact that Eastern Europe is still in a state of war and upheaval has escaped their minds. Although, transracial adoptions for E. Europe has been on the rise, particularly for countries like Georgia.
        However, I do think there is some truth to the idea of the white savior mentality and their first thought is to save the helpless brown people.

      2. And part of why it still exist is because of those ‘Save the Children’ commercials that appear on television. There’s always a white person, male or female, telling the people that for a low price you can save one child from a poor Southeast Asian country or any part of Africa.

  2. “Namely that is why is it that these women never have black children the old fashioned way? No they get them express mail order bride, COD delivery style and it’s always from some far off third world African country as if black babies in America have some sort of ‘ghetto cooties’ from birth.”

    Anybody notice some of the same shit with the current president of the USA??!

    What is it about us aa’s ,damaged goods? too likely to be uppity?
    The look the baby’s face in the above picture is interesting.

      1. Are you idiots REALLY trying to tell me you can figure something out about race relations from looking at the expression on a BABY’S face? You really ARE obsessed with race! Lol! You’re a bunch of race addicts. Race is everywhere for you isn’t it? Especially where it obfiously ISN’T!

      2. Oh really? So you don’t believe that race is everywhere. But when a crime happens when the victims of white and the suspect is black, then it becomes a race issue?

  3. @Lavern I agree with you. I touched on this subject this a few months back.
    http://kushiteprince.wordpress.com/2012/06/27/white-celebs-adoptingsavingblack-babies-6/
    I agree with your sentiments about Sandra Bullock. After seeing that film The Blind Side,I guess Sandra wants to keep playing the “white savior” role. I just get a really uneasy feeling when whites adopt black/African babies. It just doesn’t sit right with me. I think we as black people need to adopt our babies more so we don’t have to rely on others taking care of our kids. But I like your post,you made some very valid points.

    1. Don’t forget they are also raising those kids in Hollywood which is steeped in white patriarchy and the whole white is better attitude.

  4. As a “boughten colored child”, this twanged a nerve…I’m repulsed when I see whites trotting around their ‘adopted’ children as if they’re some exotic pet – it was done to me, so I recognize it for what it is.

    I have long wondered why more Black families aren’t adopting Black babies…then I look at the system and who runs it, and my question is answered. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn that their files are ‘accidentally lost’ or ‘misplaced’, or that they are held to higher standards than prospective white parents, much like when CPS gets involved in the separation of a family. Whites worldwide have a notorious history when it comes to dismantling the families of Blacks and other PoC, so something like this is only skimming the surface. We see the well-publicized Holly-white ‘adoptions’; there are many of us who suffered in silence, far removed from anyone who might have been better parents and/or role models.

    1. A lot of blacks are raising nieces, nephews, etc. These are often informal arrangements that last for a few months to a few years. I had cousins that lived with us from time to time.

    2. You are not far from the truth. Some adoption agencies would report that black families aren’t as interested in adoption. However, in various studies it was found that more often than not black families were often neglected in the adoption process, and little to no effort was taken by agencies to recruit black families at all.

  5. Definitely agree with this. White celebs love doing whatever they can to look like “good people”, including using children like accessories, which is about the direct opposite of “good”. It’s embarrassing how transparent it all is to everyone except themselves and their clinger-ons.

    I think that child in the photo knows what’s up too.

  6. Transracial adoption is a subject I’ve been researching for a while :

    Dr. Darron Smith (black male ex-mormon) is an expert on transracial adoption. He wrote a book about it and is rather critical of the practice:

    http://www.darronsmith.com/category/race-and-adoption/

    Dr John Rabile (University of Nebraska) was transracially adopted. He has dedicated his life to helping adult adoptees. There is a faith based movement surrounding transracial adoption; mostly mormons and fundamentalist christians. Dr Rabile says:

    “As the faith-based adoption movement to “save orphans” gains momentum, it seems timely and important to hear from adult adoptees about how it felt to grow up as someone else’s “rescue” project”

    http://johnraible.wordpress.com/

    One of the sadest stories is of a black/asian woman adopted by a conservative white family in Oregon. They were told that she was white/hispanic. She has written a play about her life:

    http://birthproject.wordpress.com/

    I’ve been following the blog of a religious white couple that adopted two black males from abroad:

    http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2010/10/our-adoption-story.html

    A website calle “Love Isn’t Enough” was created to serve as a resource for parents of transracial adoptees and parents of mixed children. Topics like colorism and hair are commonly addressed:

    http://loveisntenough.com/

  7. @Alchemist,

    I went over to the last link and the first post is yet again another white woman talking about her “biracial” child–they kill me with this shit! From the picture, her child is obviously Black. Her whole damn posts reeks of common misperceptions about Black people and only confirms what many white women who have children with MoC–especially Black men feel about “seeing color”. She claims she doesn’t see it.

    Pathetic. Brothers if you are going to get with white women, get with those who truly embrace Blackness and not just want to f*** it.

    1. I am just disgusted…it is one thing to live in a world that expresses anti-Black sentiments against your skin and culture constantly, but to be Black and birthed and raised by a white mother–the one person in life who should be a nurturer and source of guidance–and have her ignore your Blackness to excuse her crimes and her people’s crimes against you may be the ultimate form of white supremacy.

  8. I was reading a post on the guardian united kingdom blogsite that has an interview with the actor Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje. He portrayed the character Mr. Ecko on the ABC series Lost. In the interview he talks about growing up with a white working class couple. His parents were studying in London and gave him away to this couple when he was six weeks old. He is producing a documentary called Farming. He was a product of this practice. Farming the practice of handing out children to informal fostering that many Nigerian parents followed in the 1960’s and 1970’s. He goes on to say how he didn’t want to be black. The couple was ignorant of African culture and didn’t know how to care for him and his other siblings. He even goes on to say how a white skinhead group used him to torture other black people. That’s why white people adopting black children is not a good thing.He struggled with his identity as an African and having black skin. All this psychological torture in this young man’s psyche because of this horrendous practice. It is my opinion that whites that want to adopt black children have knowledge of black and African culture. It’s really irresponsible on their part not to know about the child who looks to them for nurturing not to have knowledge about said child’s culture. It makes me wonder what is the agenda of the rich white celebrities. Yes I believe the white savior issue is problematic.

  9. the expression on the little baby’s face looks like he’s saying “Somebody please get me away from the crazy white woman”. LoL!

  10. Louis is such a beautiful baby boy. I agree with many of the commenters here regarding the look on his sweet face. I’m afraid he may grow up with issues because I know several international adoptees and all of them mentioned how their adoptive parents didn’t have a clue how to raise them ie. dealing with racism from others. Basically, they were told to ignore it.

      1. There was a survey on some site called Mom’s Cafe–a blog/resource site for mothers. Most of it’s audience is white women. When asked if they would consider transracial adoption, around 60% said yes and the rest said either no or maybe.

  11. Our favorite “white savior” Sandra Bullock received the Humanitarian Award?? WTF!? This was at the people’s Choice Awards this past Sunday. These people love to pat themselves on the back,don’t they? Makes me almost want to puke!

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