by Lavern Merriweather
That is a phrase that causes me NO endless amount of vexation, because it is thoughtless, hurtful, selfish, and very insulting, especially when you take into account that it’s always said by people of color that are supposed to be black people’s allies and supposed to be understanding of all the pain anguish and suffering that blacks have endured in America. That mentality makes it seem as if the struggle of being a second class citizen is virtually over if you are black or that we walked into a room and angrily demanded equality then had it handed to us on a silver platter with parsley on the side as a lovely garnish.
They seem to be neglecting the documented video footage and photos of black people having dogs and hoses sicked on them by police many times under the command of the very same officials black people voted for under the impression that those politicians were going to turn things around once they got into office. Sure, more like they turned on the blacks foolish enough to trust them because many of those white males shared the same philosophies as the hate groups that they were supposed to be putting in check.
Also neglected by the “if-this-were” crowd is the fact that most of the time, black people faced that horror alone. There were no Asians, Hispanics or Native Americans walking side by side with black people when those dogs were snapping at their heels as they ran or were getting sprayed in the face by 100 pounds of water pressure all because they wanted their God given rights. Yes, there were individuals who assisted blacks during the Civil Rights Movement, but rarely did you have a group collective. And now, the offspring of those people expect us to drop everything we are doing because something is pissing them off as if the fight is over and we have nothing better to do with our time because shock jock Adam Corolla said something nasty and mean spirited about Manny Pacquaio, who is Filipino, and then proceeded to spew ignorant rhetoric towards the entire country of the Philippines.
Or when the sister of gold medal winning swimmer Ryan Lochte Megan made some stupid and offensive comments about the people of China on a Canadian TV show saying how she thought the place was too ‘chinked out’ and made an obligatory joke about Chinese people being bad drivers. Well, hardy har har! Yet, instead of giving grief to the obnoxious white female who just insulted them, some Asians immediately went there with the “If this were the blacks” meme. What am I, your damn mother?
It’s not black people’s JOB exclusively to make sure racism against all people of color (POC) is completely wiped off the face of the Earth. It takes a group effort, not a group of selfish, clueless jerks who want to play Oppression Olympics while thinking black people should do all of the work and get none of the payoff. I prefer to be asked, not told to have your back in a battle, and the fact that those POCs who have the nerve to say that makes me think that your lack of sensitivity goes hand in hand with your ability to truly align with the people whose pain you so rudely disregarded. I don’t support alliances or allegiances of convenience particularly when those people talking many times themselves harbor very racist feelings towards blacks.
Don’t kid yourself into thinking that white people are the only ones who think blacks are inferior and wouldn’t want to live in the same neighborhood, have us marry their family members, go to their schools or…you get the idea. In a very memorable scene of “Bend It Like Beckham”, star Parminder Nagra, who plays lead character Jesse, tells some of her teammates what type of male her parents would allow her to marry. When the black girl on her team asks if she can marry a ‘black fella’ she gives the girl a stern look and says “definitely not!” That’s not to say that Jesse herself wouldn’t but that her parents would probably have a heart attack if she did.
And MTV’s True Life shows a Mexican girl whose boyfriend is black and was about to lose her apartment. She lamented that even though there was room available at her mom’s house, her mom refused to let them move in because her boyfriend is of a darker persuasion. Those are just two examples, and this is not an indictment on all non black POCs.
I know that most Asian people don’t share the same stupidity as Michelle Malkin or Kenneth Eng (thank God), but there are some that do. You just don’t know who is a friend and who is a fake. After I saw the Megan Lochte video, I had some snotty Asian girl liken it to the same, if Megan had been in Africa and used the n-word. I told her to not drag us into her argument, and she then made a stereotypical hoodrat reply to me when I gave her NO reason to think I was that type of person.
As much as some of us would like to believe we are not the world and some of the ‘children’ of this Earth think they are above black people even while pretending to be our partners in tackling the racism of the dominant society. I don’t buy it, nor am I like some black people who are so desperate for a hand to hold while they stand on the steps of a government building protesting the bulls**t that they think other POCs will want to keep holding it even when the voices of the white ABB crowd call out to them. It’s no secret that Asians are perceived as the ‘model minority’. So, why are you crying to me when the people who treated you like you were better than the ‘Afrikans’ have hurt your feelings once their true colors started showing. So, when you have your ‘n**ger moment’, instead of saying “Welcome to my world” I’ll be saying “I told you so.”